Dear reader, hello! It has been a while since I wrote here and I have much to share. I see a small change in my interpersonal relationships and that’s what I want to write about. You are warned, this is long. As a person who fears abandonment and rejection, I see how often I obsess about being the right person, doing and saying the right things and always being kind, compassionate and useful. It is extremely anxiety inducing and suffocating. You can never be right always because what’s right is ever changing and how much can you catch up on? So I sit around judging everyone. It is how my young brain learned to cope with rejection and hoped to find belonging. Does one find belonging with this method? Of course not and needless to say it is an extremely stressful and I can barely focus and people still leave.
Hi Indu, this is the first time I am reading one of your blogs and this one was very relatable. I constantly feel I will end up being alone and one way I ensure people stay with me is making them comfortable to talk some of their deepest emotional trauma with me and then I would offer them some comfort. I knew I was doing this but never knew why I would do that until a few months back. You blog really helped me to think about overcoming this. I don't know if I would be able to, but I would definitely attempt!
Is it not interesting that as children, we think adults have it all figured out? - but in fact, we never stop to grow and have challenges and learn and change?!? Tiring, but also maybe good?!
Dear Indu, Thank you for writing this. I keep coming back to this post of yours. It is very relatable. I am also inspired to 'work with hands' and have decided to follow it this year. Hope to keep reading what you write. Wish you the best :)
Hi Indu, this is the first time I am reading one of your blogs and this one was very relatable. I constantly feel I will end up being alone and one way I ensure people stay with me is making them comfortable to talk some of their deepest emotional trauma with me and then I would offer them some comfort. I knew I was doing this but never knew why I would do that until a few months back. You blog really helped me to think about overcoming this. I don't know if I would be able to, but I would definitely attempt!
Is it not interesting that as children, we think adults have it all figured out? - but in fact, we never stop to grow and have challenges and learn and change?!? Tiring, but also maybe good?!
Dear Indu, Thank you for writing this. I keep coming back to this post of yours. It is very relatable. I am also inspired to 'work with hands' and have decided to follow it this year. Hope to keep reading what you write. Wish you the best :)